If you spend 10 minutes in a social media group where breastfeeding older children is the norm, you’ll come across the topic of toddler twiddling.
7/7/2020 10:58:45 pm
I needed this. It doesn't necessarily apply to my circumstances right now, as my toddler has now self weaned and the twiddling has also stopped too (crowd cheers!). But reading this has helped take away the guilt I feel for those times when I stopped her from twiddling. Thank you. I'm now breastfeeding my second child (3 months), and this article has given me such a boost of encouragement for when the twiddling stage arrives! It's as if this was written just for me. Thanks again x
10/6/2021 04:34:51 am
Interesting article. I’m going through this at the moment with my 18 month old. Up until it started I just thought when other mums complained, well why don’t you just cover the other breast? I deeply apologise for those thoughts now. And then it started happening to me. Not, as I’d always heard about, while he was breastfeeding, he has never done it then, instead when he’s sitting on my lap. Zipping up my top right to my chin stopped him, for about 1 minute, until he worked out how to get in there anyway. It first started in lockdown, so I’m thinking it was maybe an anxiety thing to start with, but quickly became a habit. I have tried so hard to stop it, pretty much what you said if baby was poking you in the eye, nothing is working. I now see there are toys you can clip to your bra, so they play with those instead, so I think that’s what I’ll try next, but they’re really expensive so I’m going to have to shop around. Or maybe just a small teething toy that clips on, although don’t want to encourage biting now he’s finally stopped that. He just doesn’t seem to understand why I’m stopping a feed and putting him down, I think he just wonders why I’m suddenly being mean to him.
2/14/2023 02:06:39 am
Great article and perspective! I’m someone who thought it was cute at first and didn’t mind. Then she got older and it was annoying and I didn’t like it but we went through a bit of a life crisis so I let her do it to comfort her and I grew used to it and didn’t mind for a long time. She’s just turned 2 and lately it’s been rougher and I just don’t think I can tolerate it anymore and now I dislike it. I know logically boundaries are important and the ways to stop this but I was feeling guilt that I didn’t mind and allowed it so long and now I’ve changed my mind. It’s okay to change your mind and to retract consent when something is no longer agreeable to you and it’s best for both parties if you maintain that boundary in this situation!
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